What Is Self-Esteem?How does self-esteem affect our lives and the lives of the ones we love? What is self-esteem? To put it simply, our self-esteem is our opinion of ourselves, or our beliefs about ourselves and our abilities. Included in that is what we think other people believe about us. That is seldom true because, again, it is based on our own opinions. Self-esteem goes by many names: self-confidence, self-love, self-acceptance,self-image and many more. Intellectually, having low self-esteem would be easy to change. Since it is our own opinion of ourselves, we can just change our opinions. And if we really know that it is only our own opinion of ourselves, we can just change our mind. But somewhere deep down inside us, neural pathways have been made that are a challenge to change. But change them we can.
When we ask 'what is self-esteem?' we are really asking 'what do we think of ourselves?' Most of us love our parents. We look up to them and want them to approve of us. Our parents were children too and they were taught some of the same things they have taught us...usually without any conscious thought. Self-esteem was never a subject up for discussion at any family gathering,school event or board meeting. It was seldom in anyone's vocabulary. So our parents just repeated behaviors and beliefs that were passed down from our ancestors. Many of those behavior patterns were no longer useful and in fact were detrimental to our feelings about ourselves. We can't teach what we don't know. So some of us have to deal with our low self-esteems. When we come to the conclusion that we need to accept and love ourselves unconditionally, we will search out resources to assist us in understanding ourselves and changing what doesn't work. Today there is more and more interest in personal awareness as well as more access to information on the subject of self-growth. Slowly but surely we will move forward in that direction and our children will benefit from our knowledge and wisdom.
Every thought that you have, every feeling that follows, every decision you make, every action you take and every result that you receive is a direct result of what you believe about yourself.
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A butterfly is a perfect example of living in the present. She never needs to ask " what is self-esteem?"
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